We all have a higher self, an ideal self, where we hold our self to our
higher intentions. When we feel we are living up to our intentions and
ideals, we feel deeply gratified. What happens when you find yourself
seeing another’s flaws and problems?
What is better for your relationship, to be realistic and point out the flaws
so that the problem can be corrected, or to honor the strengths, even when
it seems to be an "illusion." What would you do?
Actually, illusions can work, because they help you to honor the best in another,
forgive minor transgressions and elevate shortcomings into strengths.
Research in positive psychology shows that Individuals who see the virtues
in themselves and others have more stable relationships. That way you can
be realistic by having faith in the potential of yourself and others. What happens
if an incompatibility is too much? Then you can choose to decide it won’t work for you.
Either way, it leaves you with a positive outlook.
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