When we understand how the Observing Self grows and develops, we can begin to
know and understand ourselves in an open and self-supportive way. I have found
it most helpful to understand how ancient patterns, even from the cave man, cave
women days, are present in our current behavior.
This is the first step of an attitude of self-awareness, which is a purposeful
approach towards ourselves and others. It helps us to promote the development
of empathy and compassionate understanding.
Dan Siegel, in his book, The Developing Mind, (1999) calls this "Mind sight."
As we become aware of our own internal experience, it helps us to put ourselves
in another's shoes, and to imagine another person's internal world.
Being mindful is at the heart of nurturing relationships. When we are mindful,
we live in the present. We are aware of our own thoughts and feelings and are
also open to those of others. If we have clarity within ourselves, we are more
able to fully appreciate the essence of others. Mind Sight respects the uniqueness
of each individual's mind.
Being mindful can also mean being intentional. We can purposefully choose a certain
behavior with another person's well-being in mind. Others notice our thoughtfulness
and feel safe and nurtured around us. Mindfulness thus enhances all of our relationships.
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